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Monday, January 02, 2006
Sometimes, you look into another person’s eye and then you realize at that precise moment that you have found love, the kind of love that never goes away. The kind of love that stays. You think you couldn't love another. You can't wait for the rest of your life to begin. I hate to break the mood set by first three sentences but most of the time, the love you feel is not the same kind of love the other person feels. However, I do not think this should keep you from loving just the same. I say, love for the moment.
What is love? Watching Discovery Channel will tell you that loves are electrical signals sent by the hypothalamus, the seat of all emotions. They would tell you that this is triggered by pheromones, hormones emitted to attract a potential mate. Being the hopeless romantic that I am, I want an elaborate, tear-jerking definition of love. Love is, more than a noun, more than an emotion, a verb. Word in action. Something that you do everything and is as essential as breathing. Love is a four letter word that has sparked enthusiasm and inspiration among poets, minstrels, painters and sculptors. It has even provoked some of the greatest wars the world has ever known. I would like to define love as an explicable stream of emotion that makes the wise foolish and the fools wise. Ask a pre-school child and she will tell you that love is when mommy makes coffee for daddy in the morning, or when his grandfather would walk his grandmother to church on a Sunday morning. To me love is when I hear my father laughing when he’s talking to my mom on the phone sometimes very early in the morning and sometimes very late at night. To me, love is when my father would forego restful slumber, because he’s waiting for my mom to call.
No really? What is love? The best definition I can find is in 1st Corinthians 13:4 – “Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast. It is not proud. It is not rude. It is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but always rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres.”
If it’s that kind of love, then why just love for the moment? Well, because life is full of so much uncertainty. You may be feeling that forever kind of love but she may not be. You both may be feeling that forever kind of love at the moment but then tomorrow might be a different story. Because sometimes, the love never goes away, but the person has to. The only thing you can do is to cherish the moment. Relish in the moment. Love with all your heart, love like you'll never get hurt. In the end I believe it doesn't matter if you end with that forever kind of love to spend the rest of your life with. To me what matters, is that for once in your life, you came to know what love really is… it is somewhat enough that the feeling lived in you, regardless of how few the moments were. To me, what matters is that you live your life fully, keeping the good memories of such love. And when that moment is over, learn from it to be better. And even when love dies, you don't have to die with it. Bounce back and be ready to love and trust again, loving and cherishing every moment once again.
The love she'd never understand. She asked me why I love her. I fell silent thinking of something witty to say. I said I love her because she’s always late. I love her because he’s fatally flawed and imperfect. I love her because she can be really stupid sometimes. I love her for just being her, the crazy, irrational and paranoid her. She says she doesn't get it. I simply smiled and left it to her to decipher what I just said. If I could expound on that answer, I'd probably say I love you because you're always late; you teach me that love is patient. I love you because you are fatally flawed, imperfect, crazy, irrational and paranoid; you teach me that love has a lot to do about acceptance. I love you because being with you make me pray more, perhaps for guidance, perhaps for my own heart’s salvation from the devastation when these moments are over. I love you because you can be stupid at times; you make me laugh and remind me that I too am fatally flawed and imperfect for choosing you. I love you because sometimes you could just say “I told you so” and yet you always find a way to compliment me. I love you because this love makes me strive to be a better person. I love you for these moments and so much more. And maybe you'd never understand it for as long as you live. I'd probably not spend the rest of my life with you, but it’s the kind of love that never goes away. Someday, I'll probably spend the rest of my life with someone else and she'll be thanking you for all these moments. If not for the things I learned from loving you for the moment, I would not be able to love enough to take that leap of faith.
Perhaps, first love never really dies, it just passes into some other form of loveliness.
Posted at 07:55 am by rhean
I will not make the same mistakes that you did
I will not let myself cause my heart so much misery
I will not break the way you did
You fell so hard
I've learned the hard way, to never let it get that far
Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side
So I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust
Not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid
I lose my way
And it's not too long before you point it out
I cannot cry
Because I know that's weakness in your eyes
I'm forced to fake a smile, a laugh
Every day of my life
My heart can't possibly break
When it wasn't even whole to start with
Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side
So I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust
Not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid
I watched you die
I heard you cry
Every night in your sleep
I was so young
You should have known better than to lean on me
You never thought of anyone else
You just saw your pain
And now I cry
In the middle of the night
For the same damn thing
Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side
So I don't get hurt
Because of you
I tried my hardest just to forget everything
Because of you
I don't know how to let anyone else in
Because of you
I'm ashamed of my life because it's empty
Because of you
I am afraid
Because of you
Because of you
Posted at 07:43 am by rhean
Thursday, November 10, 2005
A SMALL TRUTH TO MAKE LIFE 100%
IF
ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ
IS EQUAL TO
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26
HARDWORK
H+A+R+D+W+O+R+K
8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11=98%
KNOWLEDGE
K+N+O+W+L+E+D+G+E
11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5=96%
LOVE
L+O+V+E
12+15+22+5=54%
LUCK
L+U+C+K
12+21+3+11=47%
(don't most of us think this is the most important???)
Then what makes 100%?
Is it m o n e y? ... NO!!!
M+O+N+E+Y
13+15+14+5+25 = 72%
LEADERSHIP ? ... NO!!!
L+E+A+D+E+R+S+H+I+P
12+5+1+4+5+18+19+9+16 = 89%
Every problem has a solution, only if we perhaps change our attitude.
To go to the top,
to that 100%,
what we really need to go further... a bit
more...
ATTITUDE
A+T+T+I+T+U+D+E
1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 =100%
It is OUR ATTITUDE towards Life and Work
that makes OUR Life 100% ! ! !
ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING
Change Your Attitude …
And You Change Your Life ! ! !
Posted at 02:48 am by rhean
Monday, October 31, 2005
The greatest irony of love; loving the right person at the wrong time, having the wrong person when the time is right and finding out you love someone right after that person walks out of your life...
and sometimes, you think you're already over a person, but when you see them smile at you, you'll suddenly realize that you're just pretending to be over them just to ease the pain of knowing that they will never be yours again...
for some, they think that letting go is one way of expressing how much they love that person... in my opinion, some are afraid to see the one they love being held by someone else...
most relationships tend to fail not because the absence of love. love is always present. it's just that one was being loved too much and the other was being loved too little...
as we all know that the heart is the center of the body but it beats on the left. maybe that's the reason why the heart is not always right...
most often we fall in love with the person we think we love but to only discover that for them we are just for passing time. while the one who truly loves us remains either a friend or a stranger...
so here's a piece of advice; let go when you're hurting too much. give up when love isn't enough. and move on when things are not like before... For sure there is someone out there WHO WILL LOVE YOU EVEN MORE... and I wanted that someone to be YOU baby.
Posted at 06:39 am by rhean
Friday, October 28, 2005
Loving you is a beautiful adventure...
Each day it seems there's always some wonderful things for me to find out about you...
We always have so much to talk about as we explore each other thoughts and personalities,
and as our feeling of trust grows,
we are able to open up each other on deeper and deeper levels.
Only with you I have enjoy life...
the best thing about is: you don't judge, you just listen...
you don't have expectation, you just accept me.
Every time I learn about you, makes me love you even more.
I already know enough to keep me loving you...for a long time to come.
Posted at 02:38 am by rhean
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I promise to give you the best of myself
And to ask of you no more than you can give.
I promise to accept you the way you are,
And I won’t try to reshape you in a different image.
I promise to respect you as a person
with your own interests, desires, and needs,
and to realize that those are sometimes different
but no less important than my own.
I promise to grow along with you… to be willing to change in order to keep our relationship alive and exciting.
And finally,
I promise to love you in good times and in bad,
with all I have to give and all I feel inside…
completely and forever..
I love you,
too much words that I could say
and so much love I can give..
you are always in my heart and in my soul..
Posted at 02:32 am by rhean
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I didnt know I loved you
until the night you made me cry.
I didnt know I loved you
until I thought about goodbye...
I never knew I needed you
until the night you weren't there.
I never knew that you could hurt me,
I guess I really care..
I never knew you were the one,
until the time you touched my heart..
I guess I really like the notion of loving you
I never knew a feeling could be so strong.
I may not have known I loved you..
Posted at 02:29 am by rhean
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I want to tell you something...
the first time I met you, I thought it was purely business,
then suddenly it turned out to a different one.
You've been so nice to me and when someone started to chase us,
I started to like you...but I know your not serious about it.
.
.
.
Days pass by and were just seeing each other at work,
we started out playing badminton, starting to know you, and more everyday.
It's an extreme feeling that I've met someone special in my life,
that a beautiful person like you gives a SMILE in my day.
It's been a week when were seeing each other more often,
and my feelings for you grows each day,
You captured my heart and my mind,
Now, I can tell that I'm starting to love you.
I've never been afraid showing you the real me,
because your the kind of person who's so humble, so great
who let me feel that I'm accepted for what I am.
You never think twice to help me when I'm in trouble.
You are a person that eager to listen,
a person that always think positive towards life,
a person that you cannot trade to any precious diamonds in the world,
a person that gives love to me.
I want you to know... it's YOU who is very important to me.
You are my Angel... a special friend... and more than a friend or whatever they call it.
All I know is that I have a wonderful relationship with you,
and I want you to know that I'm always be here for you no matter what happen,
like what you wanted me to be, I want you to be my *Red ONE* FOREVER.
Posted at 02:26 am by rhean
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